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Why Defining Success For Yourself Matters

Upon graduation until today, most of us think that success in a career defines by three recognitions: salary raises, promotion, and big bonuses. And finally, move on to the next ‘what-so-called’ career journey and continuing that ‘success’ cycle (in another place). However, have you ever thought whether all of those represent your definition of success?

I don’t think so.

Of course — salary raise, promotion, and big bonuses are all nice. But, it doesn’t mean that all of those will instantly fill your life with abundance either. You may be happy for a while, but all of them are just a milestone. It’ll never be the end goal. Success is no longer about who gets promoted early. Or who earns more money. Or who can jump from one job to another faster than the others. That’s a very narrow definition of success. The path to your success begins by asking yourself, “what makes me happy?”

The key to living your success is to acknowledge that you’re unique, valuable, and not less than the others. You have to realize that when it comes to career, knowing your guiding principles and core values is crucial.

Here are some ways to discover your definition of success in life (so that people can’t walk all over you):

Success Mantra #1: “For you, your career, and for me, my career

First thing first, never focus on other people’s standards of success. Some of us may look for money, power, or pride. On the other side, some searching for something bigger than them, such as purpose. There’s nothing wrong with either option. Like I said before, everyone has their preferences and choices that eventually lead them to different journeys. It’s easy to get fixated when you see your peers (seems) moving faster than you in terms of career/life, yet if you focus on them — you may overlook your path of success.

So if you feel like quitting your job and start a new one will make you more successful, go for it. Otherwise, if you feel like staying in your current role will help you build your career capital better, then keep it. Don’t follow others because everyone has different standards, issues, and limitations in their life.

Success Mantra #2: Don’t force an outcome.

Like normal human beings, we all need closure.

Many of us unwittingly conditioned to think success is when we passed certain metrics defined by society. Having a target is a must. Yet, you have to understand that there is a process. Don’t rush things that need times to grow.

Knowing your terms is not mean you should slow down and accept whatever the universe throws at you, yet it means you have to experience (and explore) more on what YOU think best for YOU — not what others may think of you.

Remember, we all have different path and priorities in life. There’s no such a thing as too late or too old. 

Success Mantra #3: Focus on Adding Value

You are more than your role, your money, your title, your status. Seriously, you’re more than that. Many people put their attention and obsess over the superficial thing — which is all material and has a price.

But, what’s important isn’t about your title or the money you get. It’s about the work you did and the impact you made. Think, how you’d like people to remember you?

Focus on the value you can provide. Nothing else matters, really.

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