With startup business growing, thriving, and shutting down each minute by now, the need for leaders has never been more urgent. Today’s organizations are constantly looking for the next generation of leaders who are obsessed with the potential growth of the business and show a willingness to bleed to build another ‘next big thing’. If in the past people have to wait until at least three to five years to get into leadership roles, now they can get it with a year of experience or even less. Well, as long as these person has shown what so-called ‘potential’ and good performance. Yet, what most don’t recognize (or talk about) is the burden that comes with it. Being the face of the company is indeed an intimidating role and can take a toll, yet it doesn’t mean you have to put your vulnerability last.
Indeed, growth often trumps all. However, putting your vulnerability and emotions aside can cause more harm than good in the long-run.
Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, and in fact, it could be one of your keys to winning people’s hearts.
It’s All About Influencing, not Supervising
When people do talk about leadership, they often describe it merely as a supervisory role. It may sound counterintuitive but everyone can be a supervisor, regardless of their level of experience. Yet, being a leader requires another level of technical proficiency in their role because it leads to credibility and competencies. People trust people they respect.
But what if your skills and leadership capability isn’t there yet but your organizations need you to be a manager? I’d say take the leap of faith and exercise on the art of influence.
Ray Dalio in his book Principles once said that one of the keys to success is to “seek out the smartest people who disagreed with [you] and try to understand their reasoning”. Your subordinates or colleagues may or may not smarter than you, but having someone who disagrees with you is as much as important as having someone who respects each of your decision.
Why? Because no matter how experienced and smart you are — you could still be wrong. By seeing things from another perspective, understand their reasoning, and being open-minded about it, you could solve things in a way that has never been imagined before. This way you could also teach others to understand your reasoning and decision-making process in an effective and subtle way. To empower & influence others, you first have to embrace vulnerability — to put yourself out there and be open to any possibilities including admitting that you can go wrong. If you want someone to follow you, then first listen.
Leading in a Volatile and Survival Mode
Truth be known that we’re in an era of VUCA. VUCA is an acronym used by the American Military and it stands for Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous. Yes, we’re now in an era that is constantly changing and where things can unfold in the most unexpected ways. This also means that we may encounter failures more than ever, yet admitting that you could possibly fail or wrong and incompetent in certain areas is much better than claiming you know it all.
Research professor Brene Brown in her TEDTalks said, “We live in a vulnerable world. And [yet] one of the ways we deal with it is we numb vulnerability”. Indeed, embracing vulnerability takes guts. Yet if you let your ‘know-it-all’ attitude gets in your way, it doesn’t work.
When others look up to you, it’s easy to think that you have to look tough and smart to maintain respect. However, people who are accepting of their own failures may gain more respect and empathy from others. Why? Because it shows that you’re human, too. And you’re willing to work together and improve to make things better.
Communicate with Honesty and Clarity
At its core, your leadership relies heavily on your communications. However volatile, you have to learn how to be adaptable and communicate clearly enough. Don’t keep your everything to yourself when it comes to sharing feedback and be humble to see your mistakes.
If you aren’t able to answer something or have no idea how to solve a problem, keep your mouth shut & don’t act like you’re an expert. However, don’t annoy people with your silence or numb attitude either. You can learn to say, “I’m not sure if I know the answer to your problem, but I listen to you and will find a way to solve this”. Keep your word. Also, inform the person ahead of time if you still haven’t find the possible solutions yet.
Try your best to be honest and authentic in this vulnerable world will eventually breeds a healthy work environment. A kind of environment we all want to live in, don’t you agree?